“The deepest craving of human nature is the need to be appreciated.” — William James

Thank you. These two little words, often said automatically, hold tremendous power in every language. To neglect them is to risk wounding a relationship.

To be thankful means we are conscious of a benefit received. Saying thank you demonstrates awareness that someone has enriched our life. It may be a kind gesture, a gift, a service, a listening ear or some other generous act. This little expression has the power to build bridges with family members, friends, co-workers and those we may only have a passing interaction with.

Those who dismiss the opportunity to say thank you are not esteemed. Many tell me they will never purchase another gift for someone who has neglected to send them a thank you card. Others say they will not shop at a business that does not thank them for making a purchase. Without understanding the power of thank you, many have damaged a valued relationship.

Gratitude begins in our thoughts. What we think about is what we focus on. A grateful heart is a heart at peace. This heart overflows with thankfulness.

Gratitude is expressed by our words. Our words have the power to destroy or to build. Keep record of how many times you actually say thank you to others.

Gratitude is demonstrated by our actions. Actions do speak loudly. Expressing gratitude to others actually becomes a gift to ourselves. It improves our mental, physical and spiritual health.

It is impossible to enjoy life without the love and support of others. I am who I am, and where I am, because of so many that have touched my life with their generosity, their wisdom and their support. I am forever grateful to every person who has enriched my life in ways large or small. Every achievement of “mine” has been realized by a team effort.

No matter how overwhelming life may seem at times, there is always something for which to be grateful. It is our job to pursue gratitude.

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates vision for tomorrow.” — Melody Beattie

I am grateful for good health; it enables me to fully participate in life.

I am grateful for my career; it is far more than a job – it is what I was created to do.

I am grateful to be an American; because others have paid the price, I can be free.

I am grateful for girlfriends; they share my joys and my sorrows.

I am grateful for my children; they keep me grounded and fill my life with joy.

I am grateful for my husband; he is a man of integrity and my best friend.

I am grateful for my life lessons, for they have shaped who I am.

I am grateful for my God for the many blessings I enjoy each day.

What are you grateful for?

Former Federal Way resident Deborah King is president of Final Touch Finishing School. Learn more online: www.

finaltouchschool.com.